Previously, I defined players as people who take action. Today, let’s look at how players function in relationships.
Do you have a relationship with someone that is not working out well? I am not talking just about romantic relationships; this could be your dental hygienist. Did you leave your last cleaning feeling like your mouth had just been mauled, or did you stop things and ask for a little more sensitivity?
Even though that’s probably not the most important relationship you’re interested in fixing, do you feel that people do not listen to you?
A player does more than just say, “You don’t listen to me.” A player speaks up and people listen. You can be polite, gracious, and inoffensive while still demanding the attention you deserve.
In a department meeting or with a significant other, stand up and have your ideas recognized. Being a player requires action.
Please share with me in the comments below, how were you a player and resolved a difficult relationship?
About Vanessa Loder
Vanessa graduated from Columbia University, Phi Beta Kappa, Summa Cum Laude and received her MBA from Stanford University. After working in finance for almost ten years, Vanessa realized that she was deeply unfulfilled by her career.
She quit her job to follow her heart and transformed herself so much, that she has now dedicated her life to helping other people, including through her new program,
You Can Create an Ideal Life.
